by: Clarissa Esquivel
Hello, my name is Clarissa. I am a wife of 3 years and a mother of 2 little’s. If you would’ve asked me 5 years ago, what I wanted to do with my life after graduating high school, my answer wouldn’t have been getting married and having babies at such a young age. Honestly, I was just so young and enjoying myself, maybe being a little rebellious and naive I felt like I had all the time in the world to grow up, so I was in no rush to do so. Until I rekindled a high school fling, with my now husband. Him coming back into my life right after high school was such an eye opener. I never realized how lucky I was to have had him back then, he truly changed my life and changed my heart. My once, “I don’t care what people think about me” attitude, had completely changed into “I want people to be proud of who I am… I want to be proud of who I am”, and it was all because of him.
We came to a point in our relationship, where we started making goals. My boyfriend, now husband, was a full time student with a full time job at a super market while I was attending online college, still unsure with what I wanted to be. We started talking a lot about our future, and by future I meant marriage and babies. Not being so sure on a specific timeline, we would catch ourselves talking about baby names or “what if’s”. Once again being naive and in love, I was so excited to grow old, especially with him. Although I was always such good friends with my husband since we were 13 years old, not even 5 months into an actual boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, we were pregnant. At that time, we had a lot of family and friends disappointed in us. We were only 18-19 years old living at home, with no career. Even though deep down inside, we were so happy. We knew we had to grow up, and grow up quick.
Not even in a blink of an eye, we were in a new apartment with a new baby. My husband, boyfriend at the time, was still working full time and going to school full time. Wishing I could go to work to help out with family bills, I knew I wouldn’t get hired anywhere that paid well, being pregnant. We had to live on a super tight budget, which I knew would happen being such young parents and barley starting out. Right after my son was born, my husband and I started working on our future plans. First on the list was to get married, in the catholic church. We started taking marriage classes, and started going through the process of getting my husband baptized into the catholic church.
We planned a date! We had a wedding date set to January 2013. When my son turned 4 months old, I started working as a pharmacy tech at Target. I was only part time so I could save whatever money we had left over after the holidays, for our wedding. As soon as my son turned 9 months, I found out I was 2 months pregnant with my daughter. We were in complete disbelief, as I was on birth control and we were using protection, but it was as real as can be. All my morning sickness was proof of that (and also a trip to the doctors for an ultrasound). Even though we were not ready to become parents to another human being, we had no choice but to focus on growing our family a little faster. All the money we saved for our wedding went on a down payment to a better neighbourhood and a bigger home, trading in our cars for a more family friendly vehicle, and putting aside a huge wedding for a small wedding up north with just immediate family.
All these changes have made it harder to focus on each other, but on July 5th, 2012 we got married in Sedona, AZ (I was 4 months pregnant). Being so in love at the time, we had no choice but to rush back to reality and figure out ways to support 2 kids. My husband got a better paying job, which came in perfect time because at 5 months I was put on bed rest for having early contractions.
January 11th, 2013 our life was taken over by our beautiful daughter. She had us all wrapped around her little fingers. The first 8th months of her life were pretty scary, as we were faced with a birth defect called Metopic Synostosis. My daughter had to deal with Nero Surgeons and Plastic surgeons, and eventually had surgery, that left her in the NICU at Phoenix Children for 5 days. She had 2 blood transfusion, and a brand new look.
Which leaves us to today… My son now 4 years old, my daughter now 2. We live in a comfortable 1 story home, in a small town, and we own 2 family cars. After having several different types of jobs, we came to realize the best job for me is being the mother and wife I am at home. My husband still works at the same job he has had for 3 years, and travels from time to time. It seems each year we grow more and more as a couple, and parents. We are living life to the fullest, and trying to keep our kids happy. We would love for you all to follow us on this journey of our day to day lives, please feel free to join us over at www.mywifestyles.com