The Poptart Diaries, Jamie Scrimgeour
Certified Stepfamily Coach|Lifestyle Blogger|MOMspired Mama
Life is so funny. Maybe that's not the right word... life is so unpredictable. In such a good way.
Four years ago, if you would have told me that my life would be the way it is now, I would have said you were insane. Absolutely insane!
You see, I was a bachelorette living the single life. Regular trips to the yoga studio, dinners out with friends, zero responsibility. Then, all of a sudden I found myself myself madly in love with a man with three kids. My five-year plan (and my vow to never date someone with children) went out the window. All of a sudden I was a step-mom.
I have always loved being a step-mom (most days anyway), but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t days when I ask myself “What the hell was I thinking?”
You see, the really important things in life don’t come with a handbook. That includes the transition from a bachelorette to a stepmom. Despite feeling like I knew what I was getting myself into (I am a child of divorce myself), at the beginning I often found myself feeling alone, confused and overwhelmed.
Parenting is hard enough. Throw in access schedules, division of responsibilities, an ex-wife, legal agreements, and all the emotions that come with a separation of a family and a new stepmom trying to find her place in it all… and well I don’t think I need to tell you, but life got complicated and fast! EVERYTHING was way harder than I thought it would be.
To make matters worse, I felt like no one understood. Whenever I would try and talk to friends or family about the trials and tribulations of being a stepmom, they would say “you knew what you signed up for when you started dating him”.
This statement really grinds my gears, because does anyone REALLY know what they are signing up for, until they’ve already signed up?
No one says to an overwhelmed mother with a colicky baby “well you knew what you were signing up for when you decided to get pregnant”. They offer support and advice, but for some reason, even though over 50% of families are re-coupled or remarried, being a stepmom is like this dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about.
That’s why I’ve put myself out there on my personal blog The Poptart Diaries and why I have recently started a Stepmom Support + Coaching Biz.
I want to talk about the challenges that step-moms face, better yet, I want to talk about ways to deal with them head on so these women can become a kick ass stepmom… for their husbands, for their step-kids and most importantly for themselves!
Over the past few years I’ve made a boatload of mistakes and learned even more lessons and I love being able to share them with other women who are walking in the same shoes! I’ll be the first to admit that the transition from a bachelorette to a stepmom of three and now a mother of one, hasn’t been easy but it’s been one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done!
Jamie Scrimgeour is a second wife, mama of one and stepmom of three. When she’s not just trying to survive being a parent, you can find Jamie blogging about her experiences as the CEO of a blended family over on her blog The Poptart Diaries. Finding little to no positive support upon embarking into the chaotic world of step-parenting, Jamie has made it her mission to support step-moms in chartering these unknown waters through online stepfamily coaching. You can find Jamie on: