Being a new mom is one of the most exciting times in one's life, BUT I think most moms would agree that it can also be a really challenging time filled with lots of hormones, sleep deprivation, sore nipples, crying..you get the idea. To top it all off, there's often a line up of family and friends who want to hold, squeeze, cuddle, love and kiss your new baby.
The problem is that some people just don't know the proper etiquette when it comes to newborn babies. So let's break it down, shall we?
What NOT to do when visiting with a new mom and baby:
1. Don't stick your fingers in a baby's mouth, even if they're rooting. They're looking for a nipple or a bottle. Putting your fingers in a baby's mouth is not hygienic and NO mother will like it. Trust me!
2. If you have the sniffles or any kind of cold, don't visit yet. Wait till you feel better and that goes for all the kids you plan on bringing with you to visit as well. If they don't feel well, or have the sniffles, don't bring them. Seriously! Best way to stress out a new mom, is to bring runny nosed kids to visit her new baby.
3. This is a continuation of 2. I've never met a doctor or paediatrician who thinks newborns should be around a lot of kids. Honestly, if you have a big crew maybe go on your own to visit the new baby and wait to bring the kids until the babe is a little older. Kids are always carrying colds, bugs, etc. Sometimes it takes a week or 2 to even show signs of sickness, but that's too late if the baby has been exposed.
4. Don't ask if your toddler can hold the new baby. Let the new mom suggest this, she most likely will if she's okay with it. This new baby is her pride possession and the fact that you even ask could be uncomfortable for her. Just saying!
5. If you're going to hold the new babe, please wash your hands first. Who knows what germs are on your hands?! They might have no effect on you, but a newborn baby is so susceptible to germs and sickness, especially in the first 6 weeks of life.
6. If you're wondering what most new moms would love as a visiting gift...it's good quality home cooking...Food! As a new mom, preparing any type of meal can be a struggle, with being exhausted and breastfeeding, plus caring for other kids. I'm not saying you need to bring a gift, but if you're going to, consider a healthy frozen lasagna or something along those lines.
Check out our vLog on newborn No No's....
Bottom line... follow the moms lead, but don't expect too much and don't stay too long. Keeping a newborn away from sickness is so crucial, especially in the first few months of life. Trust me I know. At 5 weeks old my daughter developed an unexplained fever and spent 2 days at Sick Kids Hospital, followed by 2 days in isolation at Toronto General Hospital. She had every test in the book, including a lumbar puncture, also known as a spinal tap. I literally thought I was going to lose my baby. Thank God, she was okay, but it was a terrifying experience for all of us.
I'm not saying that it's because she was exposed to too many people early on, but we did have quite a few visitors. My point is, babies need to be protected from sickness in the first few months and these tips could help to keep baby from catching something early on.
Share this blog with any new moms, moms to be and their relatives, so they don't have to be put in an awkward situation.